Is dating younger women impossible? Definitely not. My Grandpa was 14 years older than my Grandmom, and a close female friend of mine has been dating a man almost twenty years her senior for seven years. May December romances happen all the time in fact – but like any good relationship, they have to start with a foundation of respect and honesty. I say start gradually meeting people while doing the things that you already love. Try not to focus so much on their (or your) age, but rather how they make you feel about yourself and whether or not you find any mutual attraction between the two of you.
I’ve spoken with many women about their experiences dating older men. After repeatedly hearing the same pros and cons, I decided to compile a list of tips for men who would like to successfully date younger women. You’re welcome.
1) Don’t make a big deal about the age difference.
You can’t completely avoid the discussion, but unless she specifically finds it exciting (some do), don’t bring it up often. Avoid making her feel like a fetish item. Instead, let her know that you really like her and she just happens to be younger.
2) Pay for dinner.
Always. Guys her age are most likely at a difference place financially and she, therefore, is used to sometimes paying or at least splitting the bill. I’m not suggesting you take her on shopping sprees or pay her bills (unless you’re going for sugar daddy), but if you can afford to do so, cover dinners and drinks. This is often cited as a perk of dating up.
3) Confidence is Attractive.
And few younger men have it, We all have insecurities, and that’s normal and OK, but women find confidence attractive. As a mature man, you have more experience in life and are apt to be more confident in many areas of your life. It’s simply natural! You ARE in a different league! Confidence does help you get a girlfriend, whether she is much younger or not.
4) Practice safe sex.
This is the one complaint I hear over and over from women dating older men: they whine about/refuse to use condoms. If you’re monogamous and have both been tested, find some other method of contraception and have at it. Before you get to that point, however, at least offer to use protection. Ultra thin condoms and a damn good lube will get you through. Groan. I know, I know sex is better without. But if young guys wear ‘em and older men won’t, who would you feel safer humping?
5) Just do it.
Many men mention that they become invisible to younger women. Hey, most men are invisible to younger hotties regardless of age. You need to make yourself visible. Make it clear you consider them equals (there IS common ground regardless of age) and find them attractive. Go in for that first kiss quickly. Make it obvious you find them desirable (but no complements on their physical attractiveness – they hear that all the time).
Good luck! gentlemen.